How to Keep the Spark Alive in your Marriage
As you look back on those days when you first met your spouse, you are reminded with feelings of euphoria. You remember how the thought and sight of your partner had given you butterflies in your stomach. You probably wonder if those feelings would ever come back. Well, I can tell you that, yes it is possible. Maybe not exactly the same feelings but a different kind of feeling. It’s even possible that the feelings would get better. Marriage is not always going to be the same as the beginning of the relationship. No matter how perfect you are for each other or how fantastic your marriage is, the relationship is bound to change. This is because our feelings always change. There could be moments in your relationship that you feel so in love with your spouse, then the next moment you probably see your spouse as just a companion. These feelings are normal. Many married couples out there can assure you that they have the same feelings from time to time. However, the most important aspect of the relationship is your commitment to each other. You cannot always rely on your feelings. You have to keep in mind that you have chosen to stay committed with your partner. And you choose to love your partner even when times are hard.
Maybe you are at the point of your marriage where you feel like it’s time to bring back the sparks. Well if you are, let me share with you some practical tips on how to keep the spark alive in your marriage.
Firstly, find some spontaneity in your marriage.
The reason why the beginning of relationships are always fun and exciting is because of spontaneity. During those times, everything about your partner seems to be surprising for you as you are still in the process of getting to know each other. Why not bring back those surprises? I know that after a while life becomes a routine for both of you and you neglect to take time and effort to give each other some excitement. One tip to do this is to agree with each other to take turns in giving surprises. Maybe this weekend it is your turn to surprise your spouse. It can be planning for a date that you have both never done. And the following weekend, it can be your spouse turn. In this way, it makes your weekend exciting.
Second, is to display your affection with each other more.
Most couples could not get their hands off each other during the beginning of the relationship. And as it progress, this is something we take for granted because we become too comfortable with each other. Physical touch and acts of affections are great ways to keep the spark alive in your marriage. Studies have shown that those actions release hormones in our body called oxytocin. Oxytocin can also act as a neurotransmitter that is responsible for social recognition and bonding, and can be involved in the formation of trust between people. So the more that you display your affection the more bonding with your spouse can happen.
Last tip is to communicate.
You are probably thinking that you have done so much communication with your spouse that there is no need to do it more. Well, you will be surprised that there are still many things that you don’t know about your spouse. Maybe your marriage life has caused you both not to communicate with each other in a deeper level. Maybe over time, the communication is mostly about tasks and errands. If that’s the case, maybe you can consider sitting down and talking to your spouse more. One way to do this is to think of one questions to ask each other before going to bed. Maybe its something that you have never ask your spouse. You might be surprised with your partner’s response and that could be a good way to spark some interesting conversations with each other.