News Features and Commentary

“To reduce the stigma among students, Mr Lim said that they must be convinced that seeing a counsellor is not a form of punishment but an opportunity for them to receive care and speak openly about their troubles.” — Dr John Lim

In light of the recent school tragedy, mental health is becoming more widely discussed in schools, yet a stigma remains: many students are concerned about how they will be viewed by their parents and peers for seeing a counsellor. In this article by Today, SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim shares how the pandemic has intensified students’ underlying issues and how we should see counselling in a more positive light. Read more here.

“A traumatic event causes a ripple effect that can traumatise others beyond the community where the event happened.” — Dr John Lim

The recent traumatic event at RVHS has greatly saddened us and we know that this is a very trying period for the students, parents and teachers of RVHS. In this article by The New Paper,  SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim offers insight into the ripple effect that a traumatic event can cause. Read more here.

“In the long run, self-care helps us to function from a place of wellness and altruism, as having our personal needs met gives us the capacity to fully devote our attention and resources to care for others and contribute to things beyond ourselves.” — Dr John Lim

In this article by Channel News Asia, SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim sheds light on the importance of prioritising one’s self for our own wellbeing which ultimately allows us to impact others in greater ways than before. Find out more in the article here!

“With individuals looking to meet their partners online, boundaries and expectations need to be constantly communicated so that both parties can be respectful of each other’s time and emotional resources.” — Dr John Lim

In this article by the Straits Times, SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim shares some advice on how to communicate expectations so as to ensure that time spent on dating platforms is meaningful and purposeful. Find out more in the article here!

“Rather than disregarding our negative feelings or invalidating it, it is about facing up to the reality of what is going on around us, while at the same time acknowledging that it is pointless to be bent on controlling uncontrollable things.” – Dr John Lim

In this article by Today, SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim shares with us how the pandemic might be making us feel more angry lately, as well as some tips on how to deal with and reduce our pandemic angst. Read more here!

“Rather than being too assertive about what others ‘should’ be believing, a more helpful way out is to provide them with information to consider, then respecting their agency for choice on what they eventually decide to think and do.” — Dr John Lim

In this article by Today, SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim shares with us some practical tips on how to approach a loved one with opposing beliefs, as well as preventing disagreements from going south. Read more here!

“Rather than being too assertive about what others ‘should’ be believing, a more helpful way out is to provide them with information to consider, then respecting their agency for choice on what they eventually decide to think and do.” — Dr John Lim

In this article by Today, SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim shares with us some practical tips on how to approach a loved one with opposing beliefs, as well as preventing disagreements from going south. Read more here!

“It is inevitable to experience some level of unhappiness or discontent, but a person’s way of reconciling what they see online with how they view themselves is a process that differs from person to person, and eventually affects the degree to which social media alters their levels of self-acceptance and self-love.” — Dr John Lim

In this article by TODAY, SCC’S Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim shares with us the reasons social media can affect our perspective of our self-worth so much, and what we can do to maintain our sense of well-being and self-esteem even as we use social media. Read more here!

“Realistically speaking, the strategic awareness of mental health is still a growing area in Singapore… there are many who view mental health not as an illness that can be treated, but as a fundamental character or mental weakness.” — Dr John Lim

In an interview with Homeground Asia, SCC’s Chief Wellbeing Officer Dr John Lim shared the importance of building a compassionate environment in the workplace so that employees will not be afraid to open up about their mental health struggles. Find out more in the article here.

In this CNA series on understanding the stresses and mental loads of mothers, Singapore Counselling Centre’s counsellor, Michael Thong, provides insight on why some working fathers often choose to contribute less when it comes to family planning. He explains that some men may have the perception to reserve their mental bandwidth for work, without realising that being less involved in family planning might result in more stress for their wives. Find out more in the videos!

“Being trapped in a loveless, unsatisfying relationship can take a serious toll not just on the individual’s mental health, but also on their spouse’s and children’s mental health and well-being.” — Dr John Lim

What are some thinking points we can consider with regards to the no-fault divorce option? SCC was recently featured in an article by Channel News Asia, where Dr John Lim, chief well-being officer of the Singapore Counselling Centre, shared some perspectives with regards to no-fault divorces. Read more here.

“It would be helpful to decide within your group of friends how to space out mahjong sessions such that it will not negatively impact your financial resources and personal well-being.” — Dr John Lim

Dr John Lim, Chief Wellbeing Officer of the Singapore Counselling Centre, was contacted by The Straits Times for a commentary on the uptake of mahjong among the younger generation. He reminds young mahjong players to be careful not to become addicted, as well as set wagers within their financial means. Read more here.

“This Covid-19 season has been tough on us. It is important for us to look forward by making the most out of the things we do have, and to support those who are in emotional or financial need.” — Dr John Lim

 Dr John Lim, Chief Wellbeing Officer of the Singapore Counselling Centre, was contacted by The Straits Times for a commentary on mental distress amid the Covid-19 pandemic. He highlights the importance of social support, and of staying grateful for what we have. Read more here.

“We need to be more receptive to receiving help and seeking help for our loved ones, instead of being hindered by the belief that we are going to be labelled as mental patients.” — Counsellor Joseph Rajagopal

Dr John Lim, Chief Wellbeing Officer of Singapore Counselling Centre, and our senior counsellor, Joseph Rajagopal were contacted by the Straits Times in a review of the increase in counselling cases and suicide risks during the Covid-19 pandemic. Mr Rajagopal encourages family members to go the extra mile to talk to family members who are in distress about their struggles as they are the first line of support. Read more here.

The Singapore Counselling Centre, represented by our Chief Wellbeing Officer, Dr John Lim, is proud to have been part of the panel discussion hosted by Jamiyah Singapore in January 2021. This talk, titled ‘Healthy Mind Stress Free Life’ put the focus on self-care and positive thinking to improve our mental health!

“Both parents must be committed to still play parenting roles in the child’s life; where both parents focus on moving forward as individuals while giving of their best selves to the child.” — Dr John Lim

Is divorce always harmful to our kids’ wellbeing? Dr John Lim, Chief Wellbeing Officer of the Singapore Counselling Centre, was contacted by Channel News Asia to share about the complex considerations that lie behind divorce and its impact on kids. Read more here.

“Decreased personal space is a “major stressor”, said Dr John Lim. “In every relationship, it is healthy for couples to maintain a good balance of personal and shared space, as personal space allows the individual to retain a sense of self and identity as well as meet their own wants and needs.”

COVID-19 has adversely impacted many of our relationships. If you have been going through a rough patch during this period of working from home, you are not alone. The Singapore Counselling Centre was recently featured in an article by CNA as our Chief Wellbeing Officer, John Shepherd Lim, shared his views on the reasons behind the high relationship stressors people are facing, along with how we can cope better. Read more here.

The Singapore Counselling Centre is proud to have been part of Workforce Singapore (WSG)’s Community of Practice (COP) in October 2018. This COP, titled Getting Ready for the Future of Work: Building Wellness into 21st Century Workforce put the focus on the mental wellness of our career practitioners, career coaches and guidance counsellors.

The Singapore Counselling Centre is proud to have been part of Channel NewsAsia‘s latest episode of Talking Point. Talking Point investigates a current issue or event- offering different perspectives to local.

In this episode, it explores Inside Road Rage – What Turns Singaporean Drivers into Monsters?

SCC’s Professional Counsellor Warton Ong was asked to share more about what causes road rage, and what drivers can do if they find themselves being riled up while behind the wheel. Some of the tips shared include breathing techniques, and re-framing the situation to see it from a different perspective.

By applying these tips, drivers may find it easier to calm themselves down and not pursue the incident.

Read more here.

SCC Workplace Harassment

Dr John, President of the Singapore Counselling Centre, was invited to Channel News Asia to share with us on the issue of workplace harassment. The Singapore Counselling Centre used to see an average of 2 to 4 workplace harassment cases but in recent years, it has gone up steadily and we are seeing now an average of between 5 to 9 cases a month.What is workplace harassment and how prevalent is it today? Find out more here.

Dr John Lim, director of the Singapore Counselling Centre, was contacted by TODAYonline for a commentary on competitive parenting in Singapore. He advises parents who are not competitive, but are surrounded by parents not to be affected by them. Read more…

Dr. John was invited to Channel News Asia to share with us on the issue of anger. Anger is the normal emotional reaction to the perceived unpleasant issue. Nonetheless, if the anger is beyond a person’s control that could lead to intermittent explosive disorder (IED). A person with IED may involve in some forms of life-threatening behaviours such as hurting others, and breaking or damaging objects. Keeping a journal is an effective reflective technique that allows the person to introspect, monitor and manage the anger.

Dr. John, President of the Singapore Counselling Centre, was  invited to Channel News Asia to share with us on the issue of gambling. Gambling has become an alarming matter that needs our critical attention. Pathological or social gamblers might not be aware that their gambling behaviours are out of control and can disrupt their normal daily life functioning. If one’s behaviour is not treated appropriately, it might bring traumatic consequences to the person as well as to the family. Let us hear from Dr. John on the issue of gambling.

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The New Paper contacted the Singapore Counselling Centre for commentary on the case of school boys who were caught taking upskirt photos of their teachers. Dr. John shares his thoughts about filing a police report in such cases. Read the full article by The New Paper here.

Dr John Lim, director of the Singapore Counselling Centre, said a police report ought to be made when a person’s modesty is violated, even when the alleged offenders are young.

“This is to let the offenders know it is seriously wrong and a criminal offence, which will in turn send a message that there are boundaries that cannot be crossed, regardless of age,” he said.

The consequences of not filing a police report could increase the likelihood of the culprit reoffending, while the victim could suffer from a sense of injustice, he said.

Dr. Grace Li, Senior Counsellor, was invited to Channel 8’s 狮城有约:十分访谈 to give her commentary and insights about anger management and sexual curiosity amongst youths, and how parents can instill the appropriate values to guide their children.