Overcoming a Past Relationship

Back in late 2019, I experiences a break up as my partner had cheated. Though we were together for about 6-7 months only.

After the break up, it was even harder to accept reality and how things had turn out leading me to getting disturbed sleep and losing my focus in a lot of things. To be honest, at that moment, crying, feeling helpless, not wanting to accept any help (feeling that I am not even worth helping) and committing suicide was even on my thoughts.

I do not know what to do, and decided to seek help from a professional @ SCC.

Frankly speaking, choosing Joseph Rajagopal was just a trial and error as I really do now know how things will turn out and be.

I am glad I chose a right person to guide me through this difficult time.

During the time in counselling, Joseph had been very patient and educational at the same time. At times, he makes you feel uncomfortable but his intention makes me think through the process. Make you understand things and eventually accept how things is like. He is willing to impart knowledge and break it down into smaller bites to allow you to understand things easier. Especially his handy cards that i carry around with me when I face problems, I will go back to his learning and reflect.

Till date, the most important lesson I obtain during the period of about 6 months with Joseph is, change is a constant. We are in an environment that things are changing, we have to accept that nothing is stagnant. We need to learn to adapt. Fight, flight or freeze – we choose our own actions. Many of us especially during difficult times, tend to think negatively, but what’s important is to capture these negative thoughts from time to time and tell yourselves that these are just what our mind think, but it’s not true. What’s important is the present and the current moment. Work hard for the present and stop overthinking, it will not help!.

To anyone who needs support, this is an important lesson and I think its very apt. Do not worry about being judged, because no one got the time to judge you. Take the first step to step out and life will definitely be better.

– Client V, 2020

Till date, the most important lesson I obtain during the period of about 6 months with Joseph is, change is a constant. We are in an environment that things are changing, we have to accept that nothing is stagnant. We need to learn to adapt. Fight, flight or freeze – we choose our own actions.

To anyone who needs support, this is an important lesson and I think its very apt. Do not worry about being judged, because no one got the time to judge you. Take the first step to step out and life will definitely be better.

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After the break up, it was even harder to accept reality and how things had turn out leading me to getting disturbed sleep and losing my focus in a lot of things. To be honest, at that moment, crying, feeling helpless, not wanting to accept any help (feeling that I am not even worth helping) and committing suicide was even on my thoughts.

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