{"id":7969,"date":"2023-02-08T17:34:51","date_gmt":"2023-02-08T09:34:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/scc.sg\/e\/?p=7969"},"modified":"2023-02-08T17:34:56","modified_gmt":"2023-02-08T09:34:56","slug":"understanding-love-languages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/scc.sg\/e\/understanding-love-languages\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding Love Languages"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div  class='avia-image-container  av-styling-    avia-builder-el-1  el_after_av_image  el_before_av_textblock  avia-align-center '  itemprop=\"image\" itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/ImageObject\"  ><div class='avia-image-container-inner'><div class='avia-image-overlay-wrap'><img class='avia_image' src='https:\/\/scc.sg\/e\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Untitled-design-36.png' alt='' title='Untitled design (36)' height=\"1414\" width=\"2000\"  itemprop=\"thumbnailUrl\"  \/><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love is an abstract concept carrying a variety of meanings for different people. It can sometimes feel ambiguous or difficult to conceptualise love, and we may become doubtful of how we show love to others and how others show love to us. While love can sometimes be difficult to understand, Gary Chapman\u2019s theory of love languages is a good way to break down how we can give and receive love throughout our relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:10px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h2    avia-builder-el-3  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h2 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Origins of Love Languages<\/h2><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The theory of love languages was first formulated by Gary Chapman in 1992 [1], in his book \u201cThe Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate\u201d. Chapman had noticed certain misunderstandings between partners as he was carrying out relationship counselling, which was what led to his theory that is known widely today [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/can-the-five-love-languages-help-your-relationship-4783538\">2<\/a>]. He theorised that there are 5 different love languages:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Words of Affirmation<\/li>\n<li>Quality Time<\/li>\n<li>Physical Touch<\/li>\n<li>Acts of Service<\/li>\n<li>Receiving Gifts<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:5px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h3    avia-builder-el-5  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h3 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Words of Affirmation<\/h3><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p>This love language is shown primarily through verbal appreciation for the other person in a relationship. It can be done through expressing your love, respect or care for the other person through the frequent use of positive words and phrases. Usually, people with words of affirmation as their primary love language are sensitive, and keen in noticing changes. They are quick to ask after others and compliment others. [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/words-of-affirmation-4783539\">3<\/a>]<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>This may be your love language if you&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel motivated by words of appreciation and encouragement<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel a sense of self-worth from receiving praise<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Enjoy hearing affirmative words often, be it through text or verbally<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel happy when others notice and care about details in your life and communicate that through words of affirmation<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>Showing affection for someone with this love language:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can be expressed directly or indirectly (Eg. through face to face interactions, or a hand-written note)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be authentic when using words of affirmation such as:<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI appreciate you, thank you for being such an understanding friend.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI am so proud of you, you did so well!\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take note of any positive changes in the other person (Eg. new haircut or outfit)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be sincere when complimenting them or showing appreciation for their efforts without overdoing it (Eg. \u201cThat hair colour suits you so well!\u201d as compared to \u201cWow! No one can look as good as you do with this hair colour!\u201d)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check in regularly with them and show empathy especially if they are feeling down<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:10px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h3    avia-builder-el-9  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h3 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Quality Time<\/h3><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quality time is about spending focused, uninterrupted time with your partner. This means no technology, no distractions, and full focus on your partner. People with this love language often enjoy it when their partner actively listens to them, and are willing to spend time together, even if it isn\u2019t a lengthy amount of time. Initiating intentional time for your partner would be helpful for people whose partners have this love language. [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/quality-time-love-language-4783540\">4<\/a>]<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>This may be your love language if you&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Enjoy spending time with others and it does not matter how the time is spent (Eg. sitting and relaxing for a few hours or doing a day full of activities)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel appreciated when the person you are spending time with is able to make time for you and give you their undivided attention during your time together<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel disconnected and lack motivation when you do not get to spend enough time with loved ones\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>Showing affection for someone with this love language:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take initiative to plan outings and remember that it is about quality, not quantity!<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Come up with a routine that you can share with them (Eg. evening walks)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Put aside any distractions when spending quality time together to be available for them<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use active listening skills to express your care for what they have to say.\u00a0<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be sure to maintain eye contact<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on the conversation\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask thoughtful questions (Eg. How can I help to make you feel better?)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:10px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h3    avia-builder-el-13  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h3 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Physical Touch<\/h3><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People with this love language enjoy it when they get direct physical contact with their loved ones, whether intimate or non-intimate. This could be hugs and shoulder or head pats in a platonic relationship, or kissing or sex in a non-platonic relationship. This love language is not necessarily sexual in nature, but rather much of it stems from one enjoying the fact\u00a0 that someone\u00a0 can show their presence and is willing\u00a0 to be physically there to support them. [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/physical-touch-love-language-4797513\">5<\/a>]<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>This may be your love language if you&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel loved when our loved ones express their affection through consensual physical touch (eg. holding hand, hugs)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Often engage in public displays of affection <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>Showing affection for someone with this love language:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use non-intimate touch as a way to connect with others (Eg. comfort them with a pat on their back)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Express affection through intimate touch (Eg. kisses, hand-holding, hugs)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:10px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h3    avia-builder-el-17  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h3 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Acts of Service<\/h3><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People with this as their primary love language often enjoy it when someone else does something for them that they like. This could go two ways: (a) doing something as a treat to them (e.g. bringing them breakfast in bed) or (b) doing something for them that they may not enjoy doing themselves (e.g. cleaning the bathroom). [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/acts-of-service-4774980\">6<\/a>]<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>This may be your love language if you&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Appreciate when people take initiative to help you complete a chore or errand and you often do the same for our loved ones<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are quick to agree to meet requests from your loved ones, to show your affection and care for them<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comfort your loved ones through selfless, thoughtful acts<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>Showing affection for someone with this love language:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pay attention to small details about them (Eg. favourite shows, country they want to visit, dietary preference)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider helping them out with tasks they may not particularly enjoy doing<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on tasks that you are able to accommodate into your schedule and work around your strengths<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These don\u2019t have to be grand gestures; simple thoughtful gestures (eg. opening the door, pouring a drink) work fine!<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:10px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h3    avia-builder-el-21  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h3 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Gift Giving\/Receiving<\/h3><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This love language may come off as implying that we are focused mainly on\u00a0 the \u201cmaterial\u201d aspect of the relationship as compared to every other aspect but\u00a0 this could not be further from the truth! People who have this love language tend to enjoy receiving gifts because of the sentiment behind it; they appreciate that someone had kept them in mind when buying or making the gift. They don\u2019t have to receive gifts all the time, and they don\u2019t have to be big, grand gifts; just small, simple gifts from time to time that reflect that their loved one has been thinking about them. [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/receiving-gifts-love-language-4783665\">7<\/a>]<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>This may be your love language if you&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel appreciated when others make the effort to choose a suitable gift or one that reminds them of you<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Treasure gifts from others, no matter how small\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are enthusiastic to put the gifts you have received on display (Eg. showing it to friends)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel hurt when a loved one does not get a gift to commemorate a significant event<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>Showing affection for someone with this love language:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choose gifts reminiscent of your relationship with them (Eg. related to an inside joke or a shared memory) or gifts that align with their interests<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider giving a thoughtful handmade gift (Eg. card, pastry)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Surprise them with flowers or their favourite food whenever possible!<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:10px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h2    avia-builder-el-25  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h2 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Benefits of Understanding Love Languages<\/h2><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While the concept of love languages seems to be a useful classification tool, how does it help in the context of a relationship?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research has shown that love languages are vehicles for the conveying of relational maintenance items such as assurances, social networks, openness, positivity, and shared tasks.\u00a0 [<a href=\"http:\/\/anonym.to\/?http:\/\/doi.org\/10.1080\/17464090500535822\">8<\/a>] This means that the expression of love languages can be important in helping to keep a relationship going. Additionally, a match in love languages between partners has also been associated with more satisfaction in the relationship. [<a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1371\/journal.pone.0269429\">9<\/a>]<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong>Other benefits to learning about love languages are as follows:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Allows us to be aware of others\u2019 needs along with ours<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Strengthens and deepens our connection with others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Increases our emotional intelligence<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Facilitates our personal growth, from caring for others in love languages we may not be familiar with<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Creates more meaningful interactions with others from being intentional in expressing our love and appreciation<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Furthermore, it can be helpful for us to be understanding when our loved ones have difficulty expressing their affection in our preferred love language. Simply acknowledge and appreciate their efforts even if our expectations are not met (Eg. thanking them for trying, or expressing gratitude through their preferred love language).<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Since our love languages can change over time, we can regard our love language as a way to improve our communication with others, rather than abiding to it strictly to express love and affection. There are other skills such as emotion regulation skills, that are equally important to cultivate to strengthen our relationships with others.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  style='padding-bottom:10px; ' class='av-special-heading av-special-heading-h2    avia-builder-el-31  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  '><h2 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >References<\/h2><div class='special-heading-border'><div class='special-heading-inner-border' ><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<section class=\"av_textblock_section \"  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock  '   itemprop=\"text\" ><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[1] Chapman, G. (1992). <em>The five love languages how to express heartfelt commitment to your mate. <\/em>Northfield Publishing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[2] Gordon, S. 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